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“Blennis!”

“Who’s Blennis?”

“Wha??”

“Blennis, who is Blennis??!”

“Wha?? No one, never mind! Why are you always listening to me?”

Such a crazy Mother thing to say with complete conviction; I was in the same room as her, short of earplugs or disability there was nothing to be done. I was foolishly helping her complete an online registration form for e-payslips from Boots. She’s scowling and repeating herself now, as means of deflection, nice try.

“Mum. Who or what is Blennis? I have heard you say it a few times now..”

“Peter, it’s nothing OK? Just leave it, OK?”

She scowls again then smiles a little. Here it comes..

Ya rah’ beatic!”

I know exactly what blennis is, I just want to see her squirm a little. Blennis is a made-up word. From what I can work out it’s the love-child of Bloody and Penis. Ya rah’ beatic – now, this one is not made-up, it’s Arabic, literally translated it means may your house fall in on you! Never take an Arab literally..in Arabic at least. Often English. I breezily ignore the wish of filicide.

“It’s your new swear word isn’t it Mum? How about bashoon?”

The etymology of bashoon eludes me.

My Mother is crazy. I’ve spent much of my life trying to appease her wildly fluctuating moods and opinions, her complete lack of memory and overpowering emotions. Yes, some people call it Arab, but I now call it Borderline. If only I had known as a child, I could have saved all that time trying to fix her.

She used to scare the shit out of me.

I would know what kind of a day it was going to be as soon as I woke up. I developed a heightened level of emotional perception at a very young age, I could literally feel the emotions of others I was close to, a necessary survival mechanism in a passive-aggressive family. There would never be happiness, just slightly less bitterness, less indiscriminate rage, perhaps eventually a hug though if I was lucky, or very naughty.

Very naughty it was, luck was in short supply.

Now, it’s important to point out that very naughty is a relative term. I was actually, by secular standards, a model child, but unfairly marked against the unobtainable purity of Christ – I was Satan himself.

“I don’t want any, I don’t like it..”

I hated Baclava and always had, even if her’s was the best in the World, I wish she’d remember just one of my preferences. I knew I shouldn’t have added that last bit, I don’t like it, as tame as it seems; it didn’t take much to set her off. She looks up with fire in her eyes instantly, a black, seething fire.

“You ungrateful boy, you don’t know what it’s like to have nothing, do you? Do you..?”

I did. The rant would then start, an endless tirade of emotions and thoughts all becoming one and the same, spurring each other on into the storm. It’s terrifying, it’s disgusting. I’d start running before the real threat of violence but not by much. Sometimes she’d catch me on the stairs and whack the shit out of me with the leather stick she used to stir the laundry in the twin-tub washing machine, sometimes I’d make it to the crawl space.

“They made me come here, to this stupid country, do you think I wanted to? Do you think I wanted to come..I had to!”

She wasn’t seeing me when in that fury, she was seeing all the men that had abused her, but as a male, present, I was the only target – if my Brother or Sister were not currently under-fire that is. Poor bastards, they had it worse than me, they just didn’t feel as much.

A war of attrition. She’d plant herself by the entrance to the hole and I’d remain hidden, eventually one of us would concede. I’d usually start crying, and for a brief moment she would soften.

“I’m sorry sweetheart, come here, I didn’t mean it..”

Finally I got what I wanted. I’d sob in her arms, not because of what I had done, no, I’d cling-on because this would be the only time I would have her full attention, some actual love. A child will opt for negative attention if positive is not an option. I just wanted my Mum, they stole her away from me. I just wanted to be loved, I wanted to have fun, but she knew neither by default, only pain and suffering. It wasn’t my fault.

I learnt as a teenager that if I pleased her in almost every way possible, life would be less emotionally abusive, a tactic that worked but took almost all of my energy and baffled my siblings, eventually ending in deep resentment. I spent much of my adult life searching for reasons why she is the way she is, trying to save her – then, failing that, any damaged female that came my way. Soft abuse is still abuse.

I’m back at home briefly while I search for a new place to live; collapsing towers can leave One disenfranchised. I love my family, I hate them too. I’m glad that I can’t let go of them, for some reason, or they would be long-gone. But what to do with anger from the deep? Ghosts feel no pain and learn nothing.

I strive to be the fool, in the best possible way, letting go, trusting, loving – defying experience that would tell me to stay foetal, in bed, forever. It ends here, they won’t steal my life too.

rainbpwA soft yellow light is flowing through the French doors then in to my makeshift bedroom, it hits the right-hand side of my face; I close my eyes. I’m reminded of the promise I made to myself 6 months earlier, on the coldest of nights. Shudder. I tilt my head to the left as my eyes clench shut. I feel the nurturing warmth of the Sun, return to the present, then smile; Soft, deep breaths.

“Thank You..”

I’m not sure who I am thanking, only that I feel truly grateful. I feel now in a way that was not possible before; I can barely explain it without sounding like the sort of book we used to burn at Church in the early 90’s.

It’s hilarious to think how scared I was as a Christian. Such a small life. Brighton was a very big place for such narrow minds; “The Lord” had called my Dad to the City for that very reason. Brighton was the Sodom and Gomorrah of the UK, the heart of a rising movement that was on the verge of destroying society. Utterly terrifying, it promoted freedom, love and pleasure – for shame (shame, shame..).

It’s fair to say Dad was against the ‘New Age’, with it’s promise of peace and it’s clearly gay agenda. He formed a task-force within the Evangelical Alliance to tackle the problem, outrage being the best motivation for any action, of course.

“You see this symbol, Peter?”

“Hmm..?”

I could feel his glare through the comic book but wasn’t in the mood for yet another lesson in puritanism, Buster was preferential by far. I was 11 years old.

“Peter James John Deuk! Look at me when I’m speaking to you!”

I know, it’s quite a name, I would be named after all the Saints but for the grace of God. I look up, slowly, I knew he hated me, so who cared? Best avoid another spank-chase however. How things change.

“This, Peter, is the symbol of the New Age..”

He points to a page of a flimsy pamphlet; I had no idea what I was looking at – a black and white swirl with spots covered with a rainbow?

“It’s called Y..Yi..Y..”

“Yyiy?”

“Shut up please Peter! It’s something Chinese, OK?”

I may not have liked my Father, but back then I did still respect him, I took all his words as Gospel truth, unfortunately. Thus spake the Father. I want to get back to Ricky Rainbow so I humour him.

“…OK..”

He looks at me as if I am supposed to say something else, I have no idea what the new rules are.

“..erm..is it bad, Daddy?”

Actually by that point I’m pretty sure it would have been Dad, I just liked the sound of Daddy. Call me a pervert (or a slut..).

“Yes it’s bad, Peter, it is the Devil’s new calling card and so is that other symbol, the one that looks like a an upside-down ‘Y'”.

“So what should I do, Papa?”

“If you see any of those symbols anywhere, take note of where and report it to me instantly so I can feed-back to the Evangelical Alliance, OK?”

The E.A. is nowhere near as cool as it sounds. It is not, unfortunately, a rugged troop of well packaged preachers who fight evil, no, it’s just a group of grey, scared, deluded old men, most of whom are closeted yet fiercely homophobic – who fight “evil”.

“OK Baba.”

The look of pride on his face. Such a good boy I was, such a good, dirty boy.

“Good lad. Now run along and play with your stick and ball.”

It wasn’t a stick, but it was closer to that than Play Station, no doubt.

I was raised in a very black-and-white world – I have recently been strongly encouraged to live life in the grey, but why gotta be grey? Isn’t the Rainbow in-between black and white?

 

escapeIt’s been a long time, I hope you’re well.

Whilst sat on the bus the other day, trying my hardest to stifle yet another panic attack, a young Arab man placed himself ambiguously close to me. To be honest his ethnicity was just an educated guess, based on the truly black nature of his body hair, some of which was showing from various oases. This particular shade of black belonged to Bahrain or Saudi. Too soft for Saudi actually, too open. I know my Arab men. His eyes were framed beautifully, gleaming greeny-brown in the mid-morning sun as he gazed out the window, towards the sea.

I fall in love instantly.

We’re sat at the back of the bus on the top-deck, no one else is around so I take the opportunity to study him as he is looking away. He’s so beautiful, I want to touch him and lick his face.

As I softly abuse him with all four of my eyes (unconsciously consensual, of course) I realise it is probably the first time I have been turned-on by anything real in a very long time. Relatively, I think. It’s hard to be sure. I slant my head slightly then seductively shuffle a little closer, breathing-in as deeply as I can. He smells of pine and lemongrass, not the expected deep pungency of the East, surprising, rising. Shudder, tingles all-over, my senses are all suddenly engaged with an unimaginable ferocity. I feel like I’m high.

I want him so bad now it feels like I’m being tasered. Shit. What’s happening? I go blank.

Before I know what I’m doing my hand is reaching out towards that which should not be touched as my lips are launching-in like it’s the last mission to Mars. For a moment he doesn’t resist.

Let’s pause for a second. I am fully aware that this is unusual, even slightly alarming behaviour, even for me, but it’s been quite the year. I’ve not really known where to begin. It seems I’m slightly disordered, I’ve been slightly addicted, I saw it coming. It didn’t help.

I lost everything that was not indisputably integral. Be ready to eat every fucking word you have ever said in the pursuit of truth and freedom. Mine tasted like shit.

I’m not sure it’s possible to come back from Hell unsinged; my scars remind me of where I’ve come from, my libido that I am alive now, in this moment; I fuck therefore I am. Sex stops the racing thoughts you see, the endless doubts, the demons, it keeps me in the present. It stops the pain in the absence of benzos. I used to look but not touch, chastened by religious dogma, self-loathing and fear. No more.

“No, no..erm..I..sorry..”

He whispers as he pushes me away surprisingly softly. I guess it’s obvious to him that I was overcome..or something. What the fuck did I just do?

“No..I am sorry..I..erm..”

I’m lost for words and everything else. He stares at me for a second as I turn a brownish-purple, he just looks confused, which is fair enough. Lucky actually..some other bloke might have been aggressive..although I could have had him in a fight I’m sure. Yeah, I’m pretty tough, me. Hang on do I want to fight him now? Does he want a fucking fight? I’d proper ‘ave him..

Thankfully he had already left the bus.

Awakenings are not easy, they are not pretty, they are not formulaic. The lights are back on, let’s take a look.

 

Truly inspirational. Watch this space.

hammerIt’s hammer time people and I can’t explain it. No I haven’t adorned pantaloons of yore (80’s), nor has my overall funk increased, not even by a beat.

I literally picked up a hammer and fixed the fucking washing machine once and for all.The bastard had been goading me for months, years perhaps if I’m honest.

I felt better than if I had written my best piece, ever! There’s a wealth of joy to be gained from the common task, tasks that once scared me, challenged my masculinity, allowed me to feel inferior. No more.

“Who’s laughing now you slaaaag?”

I had recently been reacquainted with EastEnders The BBC’s gift to the Great British; one nation forced together by bad weather, worse ‘democratic’ decisions, cynicism and misogyny. Stupid England, you’ve only got yourself to blame for voting back-in your slave-masters for another 5. I hope you all like blue cock.

We need a Dragon Queen.

As a side note, the good people of my constituency, Brighton Pavilion, voted Green. A lone green spec in an apathetic sea of red and blue. I hereby declare the Green Republic of Brighton and Hove, by name and nature. Praise be to Caroline, my Khaleesi, I’ll follow you to the Goddamn grave!

Anyway, back to the show; It’s a misery-fest of epic proportions with acting styles varying from the Olivier to the Muppet. Regardless, and most importantly it now has a spattering of LGB characters and some shit-hot writers. If it didn’t then I wouldn’t watch it, would I? Exactly (you slaaaag..).

Why the fuck was I talking about all that? It’s time for an admission: I have been very unwell for some time now, but I’m clawing my way back; I can’t talk about it yet, not fully, it will be a book someday perhaps, or another blog. Or maybe I’ll just forget, maybe I’ll have that option for once, to just fucking forget.

I’m coming back, I can feel it, the cold grip of addiction and mental illness is finally loosening. Alex is gone. Not dead like I expected, but gone, to Singapore. He didn’t say goodbye.

“Alex is leaving for Singapore in six weeks, I thought you’d like to know mate!”

“What? How come? What?!”

“Promotion…he’s ditching his girlfriend, flat, Dunc’s Wedding, yeah just leaving..”

“In six weeks?”

“Yes, like I said, SIX weeks”

I sat there stunned; I force a celebratory mask over my grimaced, grief-stricken heart. It had been at least a year since I had been in touch with Alex, we had ended it civilly; brutal civility. We knew time must pass before we could even think of seeing each other again. If ever.

“Six..at least he won’t be able to get hold of any coke out there..so soon..but those Asian girls will love him, he’ll have a different one every fucking night..”

“Why’d ya think he’s going there? That and the pay-rise..”

I’d taught him everything he knew about business, communications; reading the dynamic of each situation and reacting accordingly. He was supposed to be my protege; perhaps he was, no he definitely was! This is very hard for my EGO, ahem, sorry I mean ego.

Over the next little while, I daren’t say how long, I’ll endeavour to tell the story of Alex and I. It has to come out sometime, somewhere so why not here? My very first posts on this blog were about him; God, that seems a personality, or two ago!

I wanted him from the first moment I laid my damaged eyes on him; He had what first appeared to be an arrogant air about him, it was actually pure shyness and deep insecurity, my staple diet at the time. How could I resist?

I cry a lot these days. I hadn’t for about 10 years, prior to my, hmm, recent difficulties.

I cry now for me though, not him, finally, just me and my fractured heart, pierced with tainted needles, patched-up with bloodied bank notes.

Ah self pity! I guess I just like the imagery; the reality is just such a dull meaningless, endless pain, containing nothing of merit. Only in writing can it possibly turn in to something of use, perhaps even of beauty.

He was just so beautiful.He was the most beautiful young man I had ever seen. I’m a sucker for beauty, as you know.

“Arrogant though, right?”

I whispered to myself

“Yeah, dangerous this one..but so beautiful..”

That’s all it took.

 

 

 

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This I saw the other day and nearly shat my pants laughing. I tried to get hold of the minister to ask him to give me a demonstration, unfortunately he was indisposed.

“How do I get to Oxford, God?”

“God??”

“GOD!!!”

Crash. The end.

Love Ltd.

Posted: September 27, 2014 in fantasy, food, Gay, LGBT, love, Music
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I have this image of a man, his arms wrapped firmly around me; I feel his breath on my neck, it sends shivers down my spine, he whispers cheekily in my ear:

“What do you fancy for breakfast then dickwad?”

“Full Engish, bell-end! What else on a Saturday??”

“Don’t call me bell-end you..nob-jockey!”

“What the hell do you think you are??”

We laugh, because we’re both bell-ends and both riders of nob.

We argue for a bit about who will make the meal because we both enjoy cooking so much, that and pleasing (and being better than the other of course!). I let him do it this time so that I can carry on watching Spongebob.

I fucking love Spongebob Squarepants . Do you think the Spanish call him Esponja Roberto Pantalones Cuadrados? I’ve often wondered that. I hope so.

Anyhow, breakfast is served with a tender kiss then scoffed like Aristocratic pigs. We switch to 30 Rock, Arrested Development or maybe It’s Only Sunny in Philadelphia to compliment the meal. Give me a fine comedy over a fine wine ANY day.

We make love for hours; we don’t dress, we chill all day, individually together. High on love (and spliff).

It’s getting close, I can feel it.

Here is a real work of beauty called In This Shirt by The Irrepressibles.